Why is it so hard talking about death?
May 8, 2018
When I bring up talking about death in my speaking engagements there’s always one or two people who swear they are not going to ever die, so there’s no need to have a conversation about it. This makes me smile and sad all at the same time. I smile because it brings back memories of my own father who passed away 9 years ago and was one of those ‘I’m going to live forever’ guys. Even when he was in the hospital during those final days before losing consciousness, he would talk about what he was going to do when he got back home. It makes me sad because talking about death is something that eventually we all face, and those who don’t want to talk about it are losing the opportunity to document their legacy.
Then there are those who want to talk about death and prepare for the inevitable, and it’s the family members who are in denial about the passing of their loved one. I recently heard the story from a friend about her high school classmate who was in the hospital and knew her time on this earth was short, so she wanted to document some thoughts/things in a video. She was talking about death. Because this made her family uncomfortable, they would change the subject and talk about happier things. Unfortunately, the woman passed away without ever sharing her stories or instructing her family of her final wishes for her funeral. What do you want your legacy to be and how do you want to be remembered?